Confessions of A WAHM of Teens
Women work at home for
different reasons. Some choose to work at home because of the
flexibility it gives them. Some choose to work at home because they
want to be their own boss. And some, wanting to raise their families
full-time, choose to work at home because a job outside the home
takes them away from this awesome responsibility. Those in this last
category often call themselves WAHMs.
Since Iíve been a stay-at-home mom, Iíve always had lots of jobs to
help pay for the ďextrasĒ in our family. Nothing was ever really
long term, just some freelance work here and there, usually where
the kids could help me out. My children were always the priority.
Personally, my role in the family hasnít been the main breadwinner,
but the heart.
As my kids continued to grow and become more independent, however, I
found that I had more free time to pursue a career of sorts. I
didnít want to work outside the home, because I am a firm believer
that a call on a motherís life does not end when the kids reach
Middle School. It is essential that a mom be available for her kids
- even, no ESPECIALLY, when they are teens. So I found my niche and
started working toward establishing myself in the field of writing,
working from the computer in my parlor.
But I found that while I pursue this new career, I need to be
careful that I donít neglect my primary job - being a wife and
mother. Many days I have found myself at the computer until late at
night while my husband and kids were off taking care of themselves.
It really was an easy trap to fall into. I no longer had a toddler
to pull at my pant leg or try to climb up into my lap while I was
working. And they were really good about it, so it was easy to go
back to the computer after supper and work into the night. One day I
realized that this was becoming a habit and they were living there
lives around me, not with me.
Many times we forget that our teenagers need us to be available for
them. Being constantly busy sends a message to our kids that other
things are more important to us than they are. If we are too
absorbed in our work, even while we are home, we will miss valuable
opportunities for communication.
Children need their mom no matter what the age. Even if they seem
all grown up on the outside, they still need their parents to show
an interest in and be a part of their lives. During the teen years
we still have a precious opportunity to mold and shape our
childrenís lives. If you are like me, a stay-at-home mom who has
taken on a new career as a work-at-home mom, letís not forget our
true vision for being a WAHM - putting our families first.
Patti Chadwick is the
Family Tymes the online magazine
that provides encouragement for today's busy family. She is also
the creator of
Historyís Women, an online magazine
highlighting the extraordinary achievements of women throughout
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